A Real Life Man (Turned Coach) Talks About His Own Fundamental Transformation in Love and Life – with Bob Galletta

Dr. Tari and Transformation Coach Bob Galletta discuss how he completely changed his relationships and his life and what is possible for all of us.

About Bob Galletta:

Raised in an organized crime family and groomed for a life on the wrong side of the law, Bob Galletta was given a tool box that many would consider a disadvantage.

Although never charged with it, and rarely if ever spoken about, Bob’s father murdered his mother a couple of days prior to Christmas and his tenth birthday.

From a very young age Bob was filled with anger and found that he could do things EXTERNALLY to change how he felt INTERNALLY. He started with violence and progressed to sex, gambling, alcohol, and drugs. For the better part of thirty years he used cocaine and crack with varying degrees of success. His journey through pain led to decades of substance abuse and an international arrest record longer than he has the ability to remember with over 40 arrests spanning 5 decades.

Despite his journey of pain and violence, Bob found a way to create a life that inspires, creates, and overcomes any and all obstacles.

Bob Galletta is THE Fundamental Transformation coach, a motivational speaker, podcast host, entrepreneur, and CEO of WHATSPOSSIBLE Inc., an international company whose purpose driven mission is to help people unlock their True Potential by becoming their most Authentic Self.

Find Bob Galletta online:

Website: Welcome to Beyond Our Boundaries – A Fundamental Transformation and Motivational Journey with Bob Galletta

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Find Dr. Tari online:

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Episode Transcript

A Real Life Man (Turned Coach) Talks About His Own Fundamental Transformation in Love and Life - with Bob Galletta

Welcome to Dear Dater, the PodCast for people who want to change their disappointing relationship patterns and finally access the love they deserve. My name is Dr. Tari Mack, and I’m a psychologist and celebrity love coach. My journey has been one from disconnection and loneliness to love and miracles. And I want this podcast to give you the tools and awareness to help you create and access the love you want in your own life. What we yearn for is meant for us. So if you yearn for love, you’re meant to have it; when we change, our relationships change. I’m so glad you’re here.

Dr. Tari: I’m really excited to welcome our guest today, Bob Galletta. Bob is a coach and the creator of the diary system of fundamental transformation. He’s the host of the PodCast Beyond Our Boundaries, and he’s an all-around fantastic human. Welcome, Bob.

Bob Galletta: Great doc, I’m very happy to be here today. I’ve been looking forward to this for a little while.

Dr. Tari: Yeah, me too, you and I met on, Clubhouse; I heard you speak in a few rooms on the topic of transformation. And that’s why I wanted to have you here today, because so much of what we talk about on this podcast is about changing, growing, and transforming who we are so that our relationships can change and transform.
And I feel like you’re a walking, breathing example of that. So I’m really excited for us to have this conversation. So, tell what you start at the beginning and talk about, where your story begins in terms of you and also relationships?

Bob Galletta: Let me give you a brief, really brief. I don’t want to give you; I was born in a log cabin kind of story. So I will tell you that I had an epiphany about two and a half years ago as it pertains to relationships. First of all, I’m 51 years old. So about two and a half years ago, I happened to be out in California for a job I was doing, and I’m working on the side of these containers in a shipyard and, all day long, I worked by myself, and I had been asking myself. What was it about my wife at the time, we’re now divorced, but I was asking myself, what was it about that relationship? That, on the surface, seemed to be bad for me, bad for her. We were bad for each other, but why was I drawn to it? Why did I love this woman who seemingly seemed to not be good for me?

I had this epiphany that I had the wrong impression of what love was. That through my entire life, my version of love was transactional. And I had never realized what that meant before, but my mom was murdered by my father when I was very young. And I didn’t have a mom and all of the men in my life; I grew up in an organized crime family.

So they all used me for different things, but I was so happy to be of service. And I realized that I do something for someone; they’re going to be happy, they’re going to accept me, and they’re gonna give me what I ultimately want, which is love. If I do, for you, then you’ll give me what I want, which is love. And, and then I realized that was why I was attracted to my wife because we had a very transactional love, we did for each other. And, and for me, my payoff was love and affection, and attention. But if she wasn’t getting what she needed, then I couldn’t get what I needed.

Dr. Tari: Oh, wow. This idea, you learn that you had to work for love, you had to earn it, you give people what they want, and you get love in return. I think it’s so common, so many of us have learned, with what we learned, how to adapt and cope in our family, how to survive our families. And we develop these roles and these protective mechanisms so that we can build safe in love, and then we carry them into adulthood.

Bob Galletta: And like I said, it didn’t Dawn on me till I was 48 years old, but I’m grateful that it did Dawn on me at some point.

Dr. Tari: Wow. So what happened, and first of all, how long had you and your wife been together?

Bob Galletta: 25 years.

Dr. Tari: Wow.

Bob Galletta: In a very, very dysfunctional relationship. And I got to tell you; I’ll give you two snippets. First of all, she stabbed me one day. And we had a lot of dysfunction, lots of violence, drugs, alcohol, all kinds of things. If you can think of some level of dysfunction, you can insert it into my marriage. Cause that’s what it was like, but don’t get me wrong. It wasn’t; it wasn’t like every day was, walking on glass. And I truly love my wife. As a matter of fact, to this day, she’s not my wife anymore, and I still love her. But I just don’t think we’re the best for each other or that we never really figured out a way to be good for ourselves. And then to bring something to the table other than our appetite. And I’ve gone through this tremendous transformation of self. So, now, when I show up at the table, I’m bringing more than just my appetite. And the day that she stabbed me when I got out of the hospital, I drove myself there, and I just went home, crawled back into bed, and went to sleep like nothing ever happened.

Dr. Tari: Wow.

Bob Galletta: Like right next to her.

Dr. Tari: Wow. Yeah. I think that says a lot about what you were used to in that relationship.

Bob Galletta: Normally, it’s just a setting on a dryer.

Dr. Tari: Oh. Wow. So you mentioned this idea of bringing more to the table than just your appetite. What, what do you mean by that?

Bob Galletta: So I’m in a relationship today, with my girlfriend, and when I met her, I told her, I feel like I manifested you out of thin air. Like you didn’t really exist on this planet before I created you in my mind. And I tell her all the time, if I had tripped over her in the hallway, literally at any point in my life prior to when I did meet her, I wouldn’t have even seen her.

And so what I’m saying is I had to go through changing who I was, what I call a fundamental transformation. In other words, I was changed at the cellular level. Everything about who I – be, And today my focus is on who I – be. I know it’s a grammatically incorrect statement, but it really is the essence of what I believe that I focus more on the being rather than the doing, and who I- be is inspiration, authenticity, joy, love, success.

And when I’m being that, it enables me to show up in that manner for everybody. So I was able then before I met Janet to go through this transformation, to have all these realizations over a period of time, not overnight. This journey that I’m talking about, this transformational journey, I’ve been on, seven years, really my whole life, but seven years ago, I made a decision to be different. And this today is the culmination of that seven-year journey. And I believe that I’m always evolving and progressing. So as I got better, as I learned who Bob really is, what Bob really wants, then I was able to bring that to the table. So instead of just bringing my appetite, I was able to bring something that I could share with others so that they could sit down and be served as well.

Dr. Tari: So at this time when you realized this, what happened next? You’re at work; you have this realization, then what?

Bob Galletta: So, I was able to then take this new knowledge and look at it through a different lens. Because now I understood why Nicki and I had the relationship that we did, my ex-wife, because I always felt like if I could do more for her, then she would be happier, and I, you could never do enough.

If that is the relationship that you’re in, by the way, if there’s, if there’s any feeling inside of you, like right now, as I’m talking about this and I plucked a nerve, and you feel like, wow, maybe that’s me. Let me, let me tell you. You’ll never be able to do enough. To fill the tank of the other person.
And I don’t believe that we’re supposed to do that. I believe that when you truly love someone, you need to love them where they’re at unconditionally. And it’s funny because I just made a podcast about this. I love you, but for how long? So at some point. If you’re, if your tank isn’t getting filled up, then you have to have the conversation with someone, and you have to be able to say, Hey, this is what I need, and I’m not getting it. How can we fix it?

It’s easy. It’s so easy when you have all that, all of this information like this, the relationship I have with Janet today is so super simple because I know all the stuff that didn’t work. So from day one, I was able to enter a relationship knowing exactly what was going to make it work.
So there are three key questions that I ask anybody to think about entering a relationship. Now that could be an intimate relationship or even a business relationship. And you need to ask yourself these questions so that you know the answer and then ask the person that you’re entering that relationship with.

And the questions are, what do you want? What do you need? And what are you willing to give? So that when I have this conversation, I can talk to Dr. Tari and say, what do you need? What do you want? And what are you willing to give? Because this is what I need, and this is what I want, and this is what I’m willing to give. Communication is the thing that removes so many problems, right? If you have an open, honest communication from the beginning, It eliminates a lot of the slights that come up in relationships, and slights are so much more damaging, I feel than insults because if I insult you, you know, you’ve been insulted. But if, if I say something and you feel slighted, I don’t even know I did it. And I might not even know you’re upset, and I might keep doing it, and you’re going to keep feeling more anger and resentment towards me, and it’s gonna create a larger divide and a bigger gap between us. So that way, if we are able to build a bridge to get over that bridge is going to have to be a lot bigger and a lot stronger.

Dr. Tari: Yeah. And it sounds like what you’re saying is that if somebody in the relationship is feeling slighted, it’s their responsibility to speak up and communicate.

Bob Galletta: Absolutely. Yeah. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed. You have to raise your hand and say, Hey, I need something here. And you know, so I tell people in relationships, and my coaching students, even my children, all my children are grown now that what’s important is to have a state of the relationship meeting every so often. So just like in the United States, we have the state of the union once a year. Well, you need to have a state of the marriage.

And you start these things when you’re not coming from an emotional place, right? So when you’re crying or when you’re feeling hurt or wounded, that’s not the time to have its deep-seated conversation. But if you can set the table for, hey, Thursday nights at eight o’clock, we’re just going to set aside a half-hour every week for a state of the marriage.

And it’s great when there’s nothing, that’s a problem so that you get into the pattern of, this is how we be, and this is who we be every week we talk so that when something does come up, you’re already familiar with the practice of sitting down and talking about your feelings Thursdays at eight o’clock and it makes it so much easier to be open and communicative with the person that you’re involved with.
That if it starts, when everything is great, listen, walking into a relationship new and knowing what you want and where you’re at that’s great. But what if you’re already in one? What, if you already feel slighted, what if you already feel that the relationship you’re in is transactional, then what do you do? My suggestion would be to pump the brakes and first ask yourself, what do I want? What do I need? And what am I willing to give? Because, as the importance meter will tell you if this relationship is super important to you. Then you need to work very hard to make sure that you’re clearly communicating your desires, it’s once and what you’re willing to, what you’re willing to give to that other person. As if It’s not that important to you. You’re not going to really care all that much anyway. We don’t get hurt by the relationships that are superficial; we get hurt by the ones that are deep, that, where people are familiar with our vulnerabilities, where they can hurt us, where we’ve exposed ourselves and where we’ve committed time and energy into another human being.

Dr. Tari: Yeah. Our close relationships are the ones where we tend to get hurt most often. It’s just part of it, but it’s what we do when we feel hurt or angry or slighted, which is so important. I love those three questions because, again, it’s you taking responsibility? It’s asking yourself.

Bob Galletta: I believe everything’s an inside job. Everything is an inside job. It all begins with; I have to put my mask on first, right? Just like they tell you on the airplane, you can’t help the person next to you until you put your mask on first. If you don’t know who you are or what you want, and, it happens all the time. Tell me if I’m wrong that we get upset with the people that we’re in relationships with for not fulfilling our needs or not getting it right.

But yet we didn’t; we didn’t tell them. And we expect people to know like nobody’s a mind reader, but we get upset because we expect people to know-how, we, what we want and how we think, and how we feel.

Dr. Tari: It’s so true. That’s a part of it, like expecting someone to be able to mind read. But the other pieces, nobody just like you were saying in reverse, nobody is going to be able to make us happy and it is not our job to make anybody happy. It’s impossible.

Everybody has to make themselves happy, do their own work, tune into themselves, speak their truth, share their feelings, get healthier. We can’t do that for our partners. And I loved what you said. I wrote it down here. You said you know, to really love someone, you have to meet them where they’re at and love them unconditionally. And that may mean that the relationship doesn’t sustain.

Bob Galletta: Right.

Dr. Tari: Because they may not be able to give you what you need. And the answer is not, you know, staying in the relationship and begging and expecting them to change, but it’s more taking care of yourself. And it sounds like that’s what you did in your marriage. How did that go? Like how did you go back to your wife, and what did that look like?

Bob Galletta: So at that time, my wife and I weren’t together, we, it was during one of our many splits, and it was so weird because we were married and started dating each other, not other people, each other, which was kind of crazy, to begin with.

But, something happened. When we were together, we had got this timeshare, and we needed to go on this trip for the timeshare. And we both tried to go without the other person. When we split up, and the people at the timeshare like, no, you can’t do that. So, we had agreed; we had been dating for a while to get back together.

And so we made this trip together. And we had a connecting flight, and while we’re at the airport, she went outside to smoke, and I held all our stuff, and something told me, Hey, just see what’s going on cause we had been at the airport, I wanted to take her selfies and acting, like teenagers and whatnot.

And I opened up her phone, and all those selfies were being sent to somebody else. And it was really difficult for me. I didn’t know what to do with that, even though we had a crazy dysfunctional relationship. That just hurt, it just hit me; it cuts so deep, I didn’t know what to do.
And I’m sitting on the plane. I didn’t tell her what happened, but I’m sitting on the plane, and I’m staring out the window in the darkness, and I’m getting ready to check out. I couldn’t talk to anybody, I’m in the sky, and I didn’t want to tell her what was going on. And I started writing an email to my children. I figured it would send once I landed and it was saying goodbye. Like I would never be free again. I was probably gonna wind up hurting some people and maybe even myself; I’m not a stranger to violence. And it was one of the first things I ever learned how to do to change how I felt internally was by doing something extra.

Like I said, I grew up in a violent family, so violence was kind of okay for a lot of my life. And while I was writing that email, I said, I’m saying goodbye to my kids. And then I said, wait a minute. Rather than cause harm. What if, what if I make it through this? And it was the tiniest little bit of light at the end of the tunnel that told me you’re going to get through this.

So I said, maybe I should document what I go through to let other people know that they can survive no matter how bad they feel. Cause I wanted to kill myself, I wanted to; I was, I was at the bottom. And I’ve had many bottoms in my mind, in my life, but I was really at the bottom. So that’s what I did the next morning. I woke up; I made a video. I didn’t talk about what it was that, the catalyst that made me feel this way. But I just share it openly and honestly, each and every day, about how I felt and how I knew I was going to make it through. I didn’t know how, but I knew that I would; that’s a better way to say it. And people started reaching out to me, literally from all over the world, and saying, Hey, thank you because I can identify with those feelings. And it was just so transformational, and it just reiterated to me that my calling is a life of service to others to help people to make a difference in the lives of other people. And I’ve been committed to that ever since, but to get back to answering your question. So, we spent 10 days away, came out, we talked, and we decided to move back in together after that.

Dr. Tari: Oh, wow.

Bob Galletta: And that I could be open and forgiving and loving, and let’s start today from ground zero. And it only lasted about eight months because what was happening was I was so committed to putting my mask on, to improving who I-be, at the cellular level that I felt like my trajectory changed. So rather than flat-lining, which I had done for so much of my life, my trajectory was starting to rise, maybe not 90-degree angle, but maybe 45. And I felt like my ex that her trajectory was still flat-lining. And I begged her to come with me, I begged her to, like we used to sit up at night and we would read a Gary Chapman. We would read the five love languages. And rather than just, I read the book, she read the book, we would sit up in bed at night, and I’d read it out loud to her so try to create some more intimacy to try to have a little bit more common bond. And then we would do the little exercises in the book. We identified our different love languages. We shared, we openly communicated what was going on. And I think that looking back now, right? Steve Jobs says it’s so easy to connect the dots, looking backward.
I just feel that we weren’t on the same trajectory. And even though I love you and I will love you where you’re at, but for how long, I couldn’t lift her up. And what I told her when I asked for a divorce was I can’t love you enough for both of us, because if you don’t love you, I can’t fill that tank for you, where if there’s no, self-love nothing you can do. And guys, I’ve tried, I’ve used violence, sex, drugs, alcohol. If you name it, if there’s some gambling, if there’s something external you can do to change how you feel to fill that void inside, I’ve tried it, nothing works. You have to love-self, and if you can’t love-self, you will always be disappointed. It just reminds me of another thing that I tell everybody; you always find what you’re looking for. And you’re never disappointed. If you look for a reason to be happy, joyous, and fulfilled, you’ll find it. If you look for a reason to be miserable, resentful, and angry, you’ll find that too.

Dr. Tari: Wow. There’s just so much and everything you just said. But I love this, the quote you said, I can’t love you enough for both of us because you’re describing, I think what happens for so many of us as we start to turn the lens on ourselves and grow and heal and expand and transform. So often, we want to bring those people we love along with us. But we can’t make that happen. They have to be inspired to do that on their own.

Bob Galletta: Yeah.

Dr. Tari: And oftentimes, it’s so hard to let go and to recognize or acknowledge that we’re outgrowing a relationship. It’s so painful.

Bob Galletta: Yeah. In my network marketing business, it’s funny because. So, I’m a coach, and I have a successful coaching business and network marketing business. And then I have a PodCast and you would think those three things aren’t related, but all three of them do the same thing. They add value to the lives of other people. And so the principles that apply on my podcast or in my coaching business or my network marketing business, they’re the same. And that’s why I’m in these three different things because I can practice universally who I-be.
And one of the things that I tell people on all three of those platforms is, at some point, you outgrow your sandbox, and that’s a good thing, right? Like when you’re growing up, you play with these kids as you’re coming up, then all of a sudden, as we usually do from childhood to adolescence, we start to develop differently.

We start to try to find our own identity. And maybe you grow away from the kids that you were always playing with when you were little, right? Because you have different interests. Now you grow up, and you grow apart. You’ve outgrown that particular sandbox, but it doesn’t mean that sandbox was bad for you; it just meant that you’ve developed in a different way. So now you step into another one. And so what I tell people in all of those arenas, that where I speak is the old saying is if you’re the smartest person, that’s in the room, you’re, you’re in the wrong room.

So I tell people you want to up your game. If you wanna go, next level, you need to get in the sandbox where the kids are playing on a higher level. Same thing with your relationships. If I am pouring into you, which I believe you should do in all your relationships. But if it’s, if it’s being received, like I’m dragging the dog to the vet, right? Like the first couple of times, take the dog to the vet. They jumped in the car, and they’re like, Oh, happy. Cause they’re going somewhere. But once they realize, Hey, we’re going to the vet now, all of a sudden you’re dragging waffles with you, you’re in trouble, get waffles into the vet, and waffles don’t wanna go.

So your relationship really shouldn’t be like taking waffles to the vet. So when that happens, though, It’s hard, guys. It broke my heart to end my marriage. And like I said, from a dysfunction standpoint, we reigned supreme. I went to the doctor once, and I had injured my back, and he was like, but I was so obsessed about what was going on in my marriage at the time I was talking to him about that.

But we were simultaneously having two different conversations. So are you able to work through it? And I was like, doc, I didn’t have a Ph.D. in crisis management and conflict resolution. Like I’m going to work it out. And he goes, Bob, I meant your back. Can you work through the pain? But it just goes to show like whatever’s top of mind is top of mind, but I was struggling. It was the most difficult thing I’ve ever done in my life. Was to end my relationship. And I tell people all the time I’ve spoken to rehabs and jails and

Dr. Tari: Because you were just for the audience, you were addicted to crack, right?

Bob Galletta: Yeah. I spent, so I usually tell people, I smoked crack on and off for about 35 years with varying degrees and six asses. And when I say that, know, listen, I worked on wall street, I got a job. I started off at Stratton Oakmont. Everybody knows Stratton Oakmont, Jordan Belfort, The Wolf of Wall Street. I started there, and within two years, I had my own brokerage firm. I had a firm on Park Avenue right across from the Waldorf Story. I had another firm in Texas. And money wasn’t an issue. I made my first million at 25, so it, money wasn’t a problem, but I couldn’t, I couldn’t get past the anger, the resentment, and the hatred that I had for who I was being, I was raised in an organized crime family, and I got real good at what I was supposed to do. But at the end of the night, in the quiet place, head on pillow, nothing to hear externally, but the sound in my head, which was my own voice, it was telling me stories I didn’t like; it was asking me who I be and telling me that I didn’t like who I was being. So it didn’t matter what I was doing in the world. It only mattered who I was being so that at the end of the night, I’d have to listen to that. And I hated who I was. So I tried everything under the sun to change who I was being.

And once I finally got clean, it took me 26 years to get one. 26 years in and out of recovery to get one year. But like I say all the time when I speak, when I go to rehabs or hospitals or HDLs, and I speak there, I tell everybody, listen, tomorrow, you’ll never have to worry about having a drug problem for the rest of your life.

However, you, just gonna have to spend the rest of your life walking on your hands. Because that’s what it’s gonna feel like for you to successfully navigate through life is that your whole world’s turned upside down. You don’t know how to do it. Who knows how to walk on their hands? At least not always, but the good news is I’m here to help. And Dr. Tari is here to help. And what we’re going to do is we’re going to flip your world upside down and tell you that starting tomorrow, you can be whoever you choose to be. And while you’re learning to walk on your hands, I’m going to hold the leg, Dr. Tari’s gonna hold the leg, and we’re going to help teach you how to walk on your hands until you become proficient at it.

And the only thing that we ask of you is down the road. As you get better and more efficient, then you help somebody else learn how to start walking on their hands, and you grab one of their legs until they become proficient. And that’s really been, what I focused on is trying to make a difference in the lives of other people.

Dr. Tari: I love that, and you’re doing it so beautifully and

Bob Galletta: Thank you.

Dr. Tari: Yeah, it’s amazing. And, and I think it’s true too, as we start to walk on our hands, we’re supported, we were supported by God, the universe, other people, we will start to meet other people on the same journey of transformation, which is what is so cool. I think bringing it back to relationships. A lot of people stay stuck in relationships because they feel alone, they feel isolated, they don’t feel like they can move on, but the truth is you become so free. If you take that step of doing the thing that honors you and you are going to be supported, you’re going to find your people. You won’t if you stay in a place where you’re stuck. So I just love your story so much because it is so black and white, right? Your transformation is, there’s many kisses of it.

Bob Galletta: It really is, It really is. There are many different layers, right? I was a mess. When I tell you I was 12 kinds of a mess, right? Like I was a mess. If you pick a topic. Yeah. I screwed that one up. Totally. And, the thing that I’m able to offer to people is, the me-too. I know how you feel when you describe to me that you’re going through this situation. Cause me too. That’s why 12 step programs work because it’s not a doctor teaching something they read in a book.

It’s somebody who has the actual experiential knowledge of going through that, knowing what it feels like. That’s why I interviewed you for my PodCast, because yes, you have the letters after your name and the education, but you have the experience of knowing what it feels like to go through these difficult times in a relationship and to be able to wind up on the other side. The only way to, we always want to get through things when they’re bad. Oh, we’re going to get through this; the only way to get through it is to go through it. And if I try every way in the world to go around it and it just keeps, Hey, here I am, I see you hiding behind the couch over there. So until you go through it, that’s how you grow through it, and that’s how you get to the other side.

Dr. Tari: So true. Yeah. I mean, I think you and I both have this experience of completely transforming who we are and where our story is taking us. And it’s so cool to meet other people who understand, and that’s my goal too, is to help people understand that things can change, you can change.

Bob Galletta: Yeah. And like I said, that’s why I interviewed you for my PodCast. Not because you’re a psychologist because we’ve talked about this. I don’t mean to discredit your education in any way, but I don’t have a bunch of letters after my name. And so what I’ve always looked for is somebody who gets me, but somebody who understands how I feel and somebody who’s been there.

So when you, when I first met, it wasn’t it, wasn’t your educational background that attracted me to you. It was your experience and understanding what it feels like to have a broken heart. It was your experience in saying, you know what? I have to put my mask on first, I need to love Tari first, I need to do what I have to do for me, so I can show up for these girls, and I can be the positive role model that I want my girls to see because our kids don’t do what we tell them, what our kids do is what we show them. Who – you – be doc. Is what attracted me to you. That’s why I had you on the PodCast because my PodCast is all about a fundamental transformation of self, and you are the epitome of fundamental transformation. So I just want to honor you for who you’ve chosen to be and how you’ve shown up, not just in my life, but in the lives of everybody that here’s your voice, you speak, and it hits somebody’s ear, and I know it’s making a difference to them. So I just want to honor you for your journey and for who you’ve chosen to be and say thank you.

Dr. Tari: Thank you. Thank you for that. So your PodCast is called Beyond Our Boundaries.

Bob Galletta: Yep.

Dr. Tari: So if people want to find you, if they want to hire you as a coach, if they want to hear your PodCast, where can we find you?

Bob Galletta: So on social media, first of all, Dr. Tari and I met on Clubhouse, so on Clubhouse, I’m Bobby Mush, M U S H. On Instagram, It’s BobbyMush13; on Twitter, It’s BobbyMus13; on Facebook, It’s just BobbyMush. If you’re interested in maybe hiring me as a coach, you can just go to my webpage, Bob Galletta.com. Forward slash call, and it’ll give you my calendar, and you can book a call with me. And I also have a Facebook group for the PodCast Beyond Our Boundaries PodCast group on Facebook. And that enables the people that listen to the PodCast to come in there and share their experience.

And guys, my hit for the day is to get feedback. When somebody says, Hey, I really liked what you said or, Hey, I really disagree with what you said, but here’s why. And so, hearing from other people it lights me up. Listen, guys, if you’re on the other side of something, then I say that you’re an expert. I have a Clubhouse room every morning at 7:00 AM, New York time. It’s called inspiration, authenticity, and joy. And the goal of that room is for us to drive down, to inspire people, to be their most authentic self, and to truly love, who-you-be, because when you feel the joy of love and self? Man, it’s like flipping a switch. You turn on the light, but it’s not just; it’s not a dim bolt. It’s like, it’s like a beacon of light and a dark and stormy night.

The lighthouse and it just shines out in every direction. And if you’re, if you’ve gotten through something, then reach back and help somebody else be that beacon of light to help somebody else. In my entire life, my whole life was like amaze. I entered the puzzle here. Remember the puzzle books, enter the maze here, come out down here. And you have to go in, and you go through all the squiggly lines, and you hit a brick wall, and then you have to turn around and go back. All I ever wanted was somebody to stop me on the way into the maze and say, Hey, listen, take my hand because I know the way.

And since I never had, that is the thing that motivates me the most in my life today is to show up for people to let them know that I’ve got your back. I’m loyal. I’m here with you, and I know the way.

Dr. Tari: Wow. What a beautiful way to end this episode. I think you touch so many lives. And from the very first time I met you, I was struck by your honesty and your authenticity, and your vulnerability. And I’m so happy that you shared that with us today.

Bob Galletta: I’m super excited to be able to share my voice on your platform. If anybody is listening, I hope and pray that something I said resonated with you and at least got you to think for a minute about, how can you drive down; how can you be your most authentic self? How can you focus more on who-you-be? And that would be my goal for everybody today.

Dr. Tari: Thank you so much, Bob. Love you so much.

Bob Galletta: I love you too, doc. And thanks a lot again for having me on here. I’m super excited. I’m driven by what’s possible. So thank you.

Dr. Tari: Sky’s the limit, baby.

Bob Galletta: That’s right.

Dr. Tari: Thanks for tuning into Dear Dater. This is Dr. Tari, reminding you that if you want love, that’s meant for you.