Updated: Sep 29
In the latest episode of the Openhouse podcast with Louise Rumball, Louise and I talk about avoidantly attached people and what if you’re in a relationship with one?
We’ve gotten Lots of Questions including How do I communicate with my avoidantly attached partner? How do I express my frustrations and assert my needs?
It’s important to understand that just like in any other situation in your relationship you need to be two things, Honest and Kind and own your feelings when discussing how you feel and what you need. So, no blaming, no finger pointing just say how certain things in the relationship are making you feel. You also have to take ownership of the fact that it is up to you to express your needs and then make decisions if those needs can’t be met. We can’t approach our partner expecting them to change because that never works. We express who we are, what we need, how we feel, and if we are with the right person. They can respond to that they can shift behavior they can lean in; they can grow, they can compromise just like we do. So, if you are with somebody who is avoidant it may not be about communication at all. It maybe about being honest with yourself about what you need and setting boundaries and moving on when those needs aren’t met. Quit having the same conversation over and over again. Listen the whole of Episode 42 of the Openhouse podcast with Louise Rumball to understand what I have to share about avoidantly attached people and what to do if you’re in a relationship with one?